Friday, July 27, 2012

An Ex of my Ex is my Friend!

Hunting Sisters (n) - Women who have dated the same man. The female version of 'Eskimo Brothers'.
I know that many people believe women can't be friends if they have dated the same person. but it is possible, and I have a few good friends who I met first as hunting sisters. Many times history, jealously, pride, and or self esteem get in the way of women befriending someone with a common ex. But if the occasion presents itself when both parties are no longer dating the guy, a friendship has a chance to ignite. 

If the women have enough confidence and possess easygoing attitudes they can get past the awkwardness of having dated the same man. It may seem bizarre, but you would be surprised how much you may have in common with hunting sisters. 
Why Women Should Befriend Hunting Sisters
1. Friendship. Dating the same guy can mean that two women share more in common than just mate selection. as guys get older, they tend to date a certain type. Therefore, exes of a guy may not be so different when it comes to personality traits, hobbies, career, and etc. Hunting sisters can quickly turn into new friends if enough similarities are obvious or discovered!

2. Insight. If hunting sisters are comfortable and close, the truth about the common ex will surface. The truth may not always be pretty but it can shed light on aspects about the man and his history. Sometimes the information will allow a woman to be certain that breaking up was a VERY wise decision :)

3. Intimidation. Nothing is scarier to guys then knowing that their exes are friends. They may act confident around individual exes but seeing them together makes them fear they are talking about EVERYTHING :) oh btw they are right!

4. Respect. Not all hunting sisters can be friends. Sometimes there are irreconcilable issues. But being civil will create respect for one another. 

5. Empowering. Women don't gain from creating enemies left and right with each other. We would rule the world if we could make friends with any woman, especially with hunting sisters. Being able to get past insecurities and jealously is a test of a good character. And other people will admire women who can see beyond differences/suspicions. 


  1. Luckily I don't have too many Exes floating around for this to be a problem for me ;) - I've always thought how unreal (and incestuous) soap operas are as everyone dates the same person at some point - I guess there's such a limited number of peeps onset to choose from! Having said that my hubs used to date my sister-in-law, and she's now one of my favorite people in the whole world!

    So - on a different topic - I'd love to bestow a bloggy award on you lady! Please stop by my latest post on Go Momma to get the scoop! Congrats and keep on stirring the mud puddle:)

    1. Josie thanks so much for the award! This is my first one :)!!

  2. Interesting topic. I wouldn't be friends with any of the girls my exs dated just because they are all really different from me...

    with that said please check out datingtwenties.blogspot.com

    Miss H

    1. Well you're in the majority, but if it happens to you im sure you'll blog about it haha :)

  3. Wow! Thats you breaking the stereotype here I suppose and from what I see here I think you have done a pretty good job at it. You certainly do put out a compelling set of reasons to follow your footsteps!

    Nice Work.

    Pages Off Life

    1. Thanks so much! There are women out there who are changing the way women deal with each other. I think our generation is more accepting and open minded than we give ourselves credit for!